This one is always taken with some skepticism by people attending my seminars. I give them this example and they start to see where I am coming from. Changing your life , making  changes that are going to better and improve your can sometimes be at cross purposes of those  around you, we have to be prepared to look at those changes and be prepared to make them.

Remember the instructions given by the flight attendants at the start of any flight, in the event of an emergency, when the oxygen masks drop down, they tell the adults to put on their mask FIRST, then assist their children and others next.

If you are unable to function, how can you be of any assistance to those around you?

If your life is not where it should be, if you are not fully operational in your personal or professional business life, how well are you going to be able to interact and deal with the people and events around you?

Lets deal with one specific result of internal  unhappiness, disappointment, dissatisfaction with ourselves and our performance, these real feelings are easily manifested in stress and anxiety. When we are unhappy  with ourselves, the people around us suffer, as we do. No one wins and our efforts to please everyone, except ourselves, just makes the situation implode on itself.

What steps do we want to take to be selfish, in the sense that we need to be, we  must first look to making ourselves happy, content and satisfied in our own skins, because the alternative is not going to be beneficial to anyone, ourselves first, and then everyone we come in contact with and deal with. We have to over come the hurdle that looking after ourselves, is not an overt act of selfishness, but a survival mode that will enable us and empower us to then be the kind of people we want to be to those around us that we care about.

If we have to change ourselves so radically, to fit in and be around where are currently, we have to ask ourselves, is the trade off worth it? If we find that in order to fit in and function within our current structure makes us so far a outside of what we feel we want to be, then we need to kick in that selfish element or end up losing all semblance of who and what we are.

Unfortunately there are no  guidelines that I can provide you with, lines in the sand that we should not cross, what we are left with is having to weigh our own personal well  being   and what we need to do to reach that plateau and then at the same time properly and fairly interact with others.

What I can provide you with is this, start to look at where you are personally in you own  life, outside of the restrictions of all of the other connections and obligations you have either placed on yourself, or have been placed on you. Take a hard look at where you find yourself, and see how far you are away from where you want to be, and if you are going to get there in your current set of circumstances.

Life is a trade off, I think its irresponsible and unrealistic to think other wise. We all have to decide if what we are trading off is  worth what we are trading it for.

This concept is a tough one to get ourselves around. I think most of us like being the good person, the one that thinks of other people and wants to be considerate and thoughtful. Look at being this person, and realize that one of the ways to get there is by first making yourself the best person you can be, and by doing this, you are able to be a better person to those around you.

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